Desaprendiendo en voz alta #3 | Unlearning Out Loud #3 [EN/ES] The Right to Have a Bad Day / El derecho a tener un mal día
Published on HivePostify by @leydilaura · Wed Aug 26 2026
Desaprendiendo en voz alta #3 | Unlearning Out Loud #3 [EN/ES]
The Right to Have a Bad Day El derecho a tener un mal día
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Hello dear @holos-lotus community,
When I started “Unlearning Out Loud,” I wanted to create a space where I could question some of the ideas we have learned about how we are supposed to live, feel and grow.
In the first chapter, I questioned the idea that success has a correct age.
In the second, I talked about the pressure to always be busy.
Today I want to question something that can be even more difficult to recognize:
The idea that we should always be positive.
There are mornings when I wake up without much enthusiasm.
Nothing dramatic has happened. There is no particular reason I can point to. I simply don't feel like smiling, talking or pretending that everything is wonderful.
Sometimes I want to make my coffee, stay quiet and have some time alone.
And yet, even on those days, there can be a strange feeling that I should somehow fix myself.
Cheer up.
Think positive.
Look at the bright side.
Everything happens for a reason.
Smile.
As if being in a bad mood for a few hours were a problem that needed to be solved as quickly as possible.
> Hola querida comunidad de @holos-lotus: > > Cuando comencé “Desaprendiendo en voz alta”, quería crear un espacio donde pudiera cuestionar algunas de las ideas que hemos aprendido sobre cómo se supone que debemos vivir, sentir y crecer. > > En el primer capítulo cuestioné la idea de que existe una edad correcta para tener éxito. > > En el segundo hablé sobre la presión de estar siempre ocupados. > > Hoy quiero cuestionar algo que puede ser todavía más difícil de reconocer: > > La idea de que siempre deberíamos ser positivos. > > Hay mañanas en las que me despierto sin demasiado entusiasmo. > > No ha ocurrido nada dramático. No existe una razón concreta que pueda señalar. Simplemente no tengo ganas de sonreír, hablar ni fingir que todo está maravilloso. > > A veces quiero preparar mi café, permanecer en silencio y tener un poco de tiempo para mí. > > Y, sin embargo, incluso en esos días puede aparecer una sensación extraña de que debería arreglarme de alguna manera. > > Anímate. > > Piensa en positivo. > > Mira el lado bueno. > > Todo pasa por algo. > > Sonríe. > > Como si estar de mal humor durante unas horas fuera un problema que necesitara solucionarse lo antes posible.
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I understand where the idea of positive thinking comes from.
There is something beautiful about trying to find hope when life becomes difficult. I don't want to lose that.
But I think there is a difference between choosing hope and being afraid of negative emotions.
Sometimes we turn positivity into another obligation.
We feel sad and immediately search for a reason why we should not be sad.
We feel tired and tell ourselves that other people have it worse.
We are disappointed and force ourselves to find the lesson.
We are frustrated and remind ourselves to be grateful.
And suddenly we are not only experiencing an emotion.
We are also judging ourselves for having it.
That can be exhausting.
> Entiendo de dónde viene la idea del pensamiento positivo. > > Hay algo hermoso en intentar encontrar esperanza cuando la vida se vuelve difícil. No quiero perder eso. > > Pero creo que existe una diferencia entre elegir la esperanza y tener miedo de las emociones negativas. > > A veces convertimos la positividad en otra obligación. > > Estamos tristes y buscamos inmediatamente una razón por la que no deberíamos estarlo. > > Estamos cansados y nos decimos que otras personas están peor. > > Estamos decepcionados y nos obligamos a encontrar una enseñanza. > > Estamos frustrados y nos recordamos que debemos estar agradecidos. > > Y de repente ya no solamente estamos experimentando una emoción. > > También nos estamos juzgando por sentirla. > > Eso puede ser agotador.
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I have been learning that not every bad day needs a lesson.
Sometimes a bad day is simply a bad day.
Maybe I didn't sleep well.
Maybe I am mentally tired.
Maybe something disappointed me.
Maybe I have been carrying too many things for too long.
Maybe I don't even know what is wrong.
And perhaps I don't need to know immediately.
There are days when the most honest thing I can say is:
“Today I don't feel very good, and I don't want to pretend that I do.”
That doesn't mean I am giving up.
It doesn't mean I am becoming negative.
It doesn't mean I will feel this way forever.
It simply means that, today, this is how I feel.
And I am beginning to believe that this deserves some space too.
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